Shibari Rope Bondage 101: Introductory Guide for Beginners

Shibari, a centuries-old art form, is gaining recognition worldwide and Australia is no exception. Shibari, translating to 'to bind' in Japanese, is a practice that traces its origins to ancient Samurai traditions and has since evolved into an artistic and erotic form of expression. It is important to approach this subject with respect, understanding, and safety in mind. Here, we delve into what Shibari rope bondage is, why it is practised, basic techniques, and above all, how to ensure it is done safely.
 

What is Shibari?

Origins of Shibari
Shibari originated in Japan and is often associated with the Japanese BDSM culture, but its history actually dates back much further. The practice has roots in Hojojutsu, a martial art used by Samurai in feudal Japan from the late Sengoku period (around the 15th to 17th centuries). Hojojutsu was used by the Samurai to capture and restrain prisoners using a cord or rope. These techniques were honed as an art form, designed not only to immobilise but also to dishonour the captured, as the various knots and ties symbolised different things such as social status, type of crime, and more.
 
The Edo Period (17th-19th Century)
In the late Edo period (around the 17th to 19th centuries), a more gentle form of this practice, known as Torinawa, began to develop. Torinawa aimed to create a more aesthetic and humane form of binding, though it was still primarily used for martial purposes.
In the late 19th and early 20th centuries, a form of erotic bondage, Kinbaku, began to emerge. Kinbaku, which translates to "tight binding," was often featured in erotic magazines and incorporated many of the knot-tying techniques found in Hojojutsu and Torinawa.
 
Modern Shibari
Shibari, which we know today, is the contemporary descendant of these practices, with a particular focus on the aesthetic and emotional aspects of rope bondage. While the term Shibari is often used interchangeably with Kinbaku in the West, some purists argue that Shibari refers purely to the artistic and aesthetic aspect of rope bondage, while Kinbaku incorporates the erotic or BDSM elements.
The practice of Shibari today combines elements of its historical martial arts roots with a focus on aesthetics, connection, and eroticism. It's seen as a form of personal expression, communication, and sometimes performance art, in addition to its more private and intimate uses. The practice continues to evolve with global influences, with practitioners and enthusiasts continually pushing the boundaries and exploring new ways to express themselves through Shibari.
 
Why Shibari?
The appeal of Shibari lies not just in the beauty of the patterns created by the ropes, but also in the emotional depth it can create between partners. Practising Shibari requires an immense amount of trust and open communication, resulting in a deep sense of intimacy and connection. For many, the practice becomes a dance of control and surrender, where one can explore personal boundaries in a safe and consensual environment.
 
The Artistry of Shibari
One of the major attractions of Shibari is the beauty and intricacy of the knots and patterns that can be created. The delicate lattice-work of ropes isn't just aesthetically pleasing; it's also a testament to the skill and knowledge of the binder. The process of tying and being tied can be a meditative practice, requiring patience, precision, and artistry.
 
Emotional Connection
Shibari involves a deep level of trust and emotional connection between the individuals involved. The binder, or 'Rigger', needs to be attuned to the bound person's, or 'Bunny's', comfort and emotional state. This practice necessitates ongoing communication and consent, promoting a unique form of intimacy.
 
Exploring Trust and Surrender
Shibari is not just about the physical act of tying or being tied. It's also about exploring psychological aspects such as control, surrender, trust, and vulnerability. In this dance of dominance and submission, partners can navigate personal boundaries, experiencing a range of sensations and emotions.
 
Sensory Experience
The tactile nature of Shibari can also be intensely stimulating. The feel of the rope against the skin, the tension as it's pulled tight, the pressure of the knots – all these create a powerful sensory experience. Depending on how it's done, Shibari can induce sensations that range from soothing to provocative.
 
Therapeutic Release
For some, Shibari can be a form of therapy. The practice requires presence, focus, and mindfulness, which can lead to a calming, meditative state. For the 'Bunny', being bound can provide a safe space to let go of control, which can be both liberating and stress-relieving.
 
Community and Acceptance
Finally, the world of Shibari is also appealing due to its welcoming and accepting community. It is a realm where personal exploration is encouraged, judgement is left at the door, and uniqueness is celebrated. This sense of belonging and acceptance is a major drawcard for many.
 
Basic Shibari Techniques
Shibari techniques vary greatly in complexity, from simple knots and ties to intricate patterns that can cover the entire body. Here are two basic techniques you can start with:
  • Single Column Tie: This basic tie is used to bind a single limb or object. It is the foundation of many Shibari patterns and is usually the first tie beginners learn.
  • Double Column Tie: This tie binds two limbs together. It's another fundamental technique and can be used as the basis for more complex ties.
Remember, all Shibari techniques should be practised with care, and consent should always be given before starting any Shibari session.
 
Materials and Equipment
A standard Shibari rope is about 6-8 metres long and should be soft and thick enough to avoid cutting into the skin. Natural fibre ropes, like our Jute Rope, are commonly used and are available from our Brat Breakers Store!
 
Shibari Suspension Rings
Shibari suspension rings, or 'rigging rings', are typically used in more advanced Shibari practices for aerial suspensions. These are circular or triangular rings made of sturdy materials like steel or bamboo from which ropes can be suspended.
When used properly, a suspension ring allows the Rigger to distribute the Bunny's weight evenly, ensuring a safer and more comfortable suspension.
They play a crucial role in many complex Shibari ties, allowing the Rigger to create intricate, dynamic patterns in the air. The Bunny, suspended from these rings, experiences a unique sensation of weightlessness and surrender, adding a different dimension to the Shibari experience.
However, using Shibari suspension rings requires an advanced understanding of knot-tying, weight distribution, and safety precautions. It's not something beginners should attempt without expert supervision, due to the risks of nerve damage, circulation issues, and other injuries if not done correctly.
If you are a beginner, it's crucial to build a solid foundation with the basic Shibari techniques before considering suspension. Always prioritise safety and consent in your Shibari practice, and don't rush your journey – learning and mastering Shibari is about more than just the destination, it's about the process as well.
 
Safety Precautions
It's paramount to remember that while Shibari is an art form and a form of intimate connection, it also requires an acute understanding of safety measures.
 
Informed Consent
Consent is the cornerstone of any Shibari session. Every action should be thoroughly discussed and agreed upon before the session begins. This includes what types of ties will be used, any associated risks, safe words, and physical limitations. Consent must be ongoing and can be withdrawn at any time.
 
Communication and Check-Ins
Open communication is vital during a Shibari session. Regular check-ins help ensure that the Bunny is comfortable and not in any distress. It's essential to understand that each person’s pain tolerance and comfort level are different. The Bunny should never hesitate to communicate discomfort or anxiety, and the Rigger should be ready to adjust or release the ties at any time.
 
Rope Placement
Certain parts of the body, such as areas where nerves are close to the skin or joints, can be at risk if tied improperly. Always avoid tying ropes too tightly around these areas to prevent nerve damage or circulatory issues.
 
Emergency Scissors
Having a pair of our safety scissors close at hand is non-negotiable. These scissors allow you to quickly cut through ropes in case of emergency, such as if the Bunny is feeling faint, if a rope needs to be removed quickly, or if circulation is compromised.
 
Knowledge of Basic First Aid
While no one ever wants an emergency to occur, it's wise to have a basic understanding of first aid. This includes recognising the signs of nerve damage, understanding the basics of CPR, and knowing what to do in case of fainting or a panic attack.
 
Learn and Practice Knots
The Rigger should have a firm grasp of the knots they intend to use. This includes knowing how to tie them securely, how to adjust them, and importantly, how to release them quickly.
 
Avoiding Suspension
As previously mentioned, suspension should not be attempted by beginners due to the potential risks involved. Only advanced practitioners who have received appropriate training and have a thorough understanding of the human body, weight distribution, and potential risks should attempt suspension.
Shibari is a beautiful practice that can bring about deep connection and intimacy. However, without proper attention to safety precautions, it can result in serious harm. Always remember, the Bunny's comfort, safety, and consent are the most important aspects of a Shibari session.